[Viral Video] How Girls Use Social Media to Build or Break Self-Confidence


Over the past decade, the power and influence of social media has exponentially increased. In many cases, businesses and companies utilize social media in efforts to hire and even fire employees. There is such a push to use social media in our society today, that many people are asking, “Could social media be detrimental?”

With the high saturation of social media in our society today, you can find it in grocery stores, gas pumps and even at home in your child’s bedroom. So, does its constant presence affect our self-confidence? It is very possible.

Here are just five ways social media impairs self-confidence, and what you can do about it.


1. Advertisements

The power of advertising on social media over self-confidence is often underestimated. In many cases, social media advertisement is actually more powerful than any other form of advertising. Today, many people avoid commercials and traditional advertisements, like billboards, television ads or magazine spreads because they simply don’t want to be part of the media machine. But when it comes to social media, we are all subject to advertisements – that we just can’t get away from! And that can be stressful and confusing to our sense of self.

It is important then to notice the connection between marketing media efforts and your personal space. Has media crossed the line? Many health professionals suggest powering all personal OFF all screens a few hours at night, to promote restful sleep.

2. Everyday comparison

For teenagers, social media can be especially draining when everyday comparisons come into play. Comparisons are a part of a new socially constructed idea of lifestyle competition. When teens begin to share photos of themselves at just about every social event including lunches and even bathroom breaks, it can be seen at entertainment. Sadly, this mentality can take a turn for the worse as it bleeds across multiple social media channels, reaching millions of young onlookers.

This everyday competition affects millions of men and women, leading them to question their own self-worth. For an example, females may see other females posting pictures and wish they could look that way. This could completely debilitate one’s self-confidence and lead to levels of depression and envy. The consequences of this can be harmful, and even deadly.

3. The “like” battle

If you are new to social media you may not know that one of the most popular websites is FaceBook. Here people can share their photos, and talk to friends and family. Each experience they post can be commented on, or simply “liked.” However, when you post something on FaceBook and nobody “likes” it, things can get a little hairy.

With the ever-increasing presence of social media in our everyday world, the power of a “like” can take over.

A “like” has so much power, that in many cases, people who do not receive a desirable amount of likes, will delete their photos out of embarrassment or fear.

This can be daunting and cause people to question their own self-worth, body image and self-love if they are not getting enough likes.

4. Cyberbullying

One way social media has affected self-confidence through schools and the workplace includes bullying. Kids can be so cruel, but today there is no way to simply shut the door to the outside world and be safe from bullies at home. Often known as cyberbullying, this type of intimidation can include negative comments, hateful messages, or in some cases the encouragement of mob-type mentality to silence an individual through ignoring them, and denying them “likes.”

According to a recent study in the journal JAMA Pediatrics, an estimated 23 percent of teenagers have reported being the target of cyberbullying. And an additional 15 percent admitted to being that bully.

5. False ideals about appearance

The last way that social media impacts our self-confidence is through the development of socially constructed ideas in which exterior sources are viewed as the source of happiness. Home is where the heart is, but today it becomes more difficult to see what we HAVE, instead of how we “stack up” to the outside world. As the outside world continues to come into our homes, and private lives via the advancements in technology, it becomes harder and harder to shut the outside, out.

Always remember that true joy and happiness comes from self-love within. And no amount of viewing other people’s lives on social media will change that.  

What can you do?

Given these five effects of social media on our lives and self-confidence, more people search for ways and tactics to cope.

Whether you are a teen, parent or an adult that has been affected, utilize these tips to help:  

  • Develop a healthy self-image deriving from yourself
  • Understand the unrealistic expectations and over-sexualized images of social media
  • Take a break from screens and social media
  • Focus on self-love rather than exterior sources for happiness
  • Begin writing or journaling to define your experiences in the real world, and the world of social media
  • Be a role model! Just supporting those who are singled out can make a BIG difference
  • Speak up. Bring reality into your world by talking about social media issues and its effects on your life

Social media CAN be Beneficial

Social media isn’t all bad. After all, it is a great way to get closer to friends and family. However, its current use by so many individuals as well as its place in business may be more negative than good. Only time will tell if social media will continue to evolve into something our society can use to push us forward. Or if it will drag us down.

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